Back in the 70′s, when I was a little girl, I had the most amazing pair of wonder woman underoos. When I put those underoos on, I really believed that I was a superhero.
Wonder Woman is a warrior princess of the Amazons who fights for justice, love, peace, and sexual equality. Whether using her mighty powers for good with her truth telling lasso, indestructible bracelets, iconic star or projectile tiara, Wonder Woman was an inspiration to many little girls like me who grow up in the seventies and eighties. Whether it is wonder woman or superman (those superman underoos were a big hit too, you know?), the superhero archetype allows us to believe that we are really capable of doing something great.
Eventually I outgrew those underoos and ended up throwing them out. Worn out and stained with life’s disappointments, I decided to get on with my life. You know, the conventional, do what is expected, life that most of us go on to lead once we grow up.
At some point I got tired of that life, and in recent years, I have worked to create more of the life that I always dreamed of. Along the way, I have learned some skills that have been critical in owning my abilities, and that makes me feel a bit like Wonder Woman once again.
This is your life. Every day we have a choice to engage in our lives in a way that ultimately creates a life that is full. When we live consciously, we practice accepting reality and mindfulness, but in order to have the life you want, it’s important to own your ability to create that life.
If things aren’t working for you in your life, now is a good time to fix that. We all have pain. It’s easier to blame our unhappiness on others, but it’s certainly not more effective. What is effective is owning your ability to create the life you want. So put on your big girl (or boy) pants, and let’s do this!
Setting goals is the first step. Sometimes it is difficult for us to know what it is that we want, or if we do figure it out, it can be a challenge trusting in ourselves, waiting for it and trusting in the Universal life force that brings it to us. First ask yourself: ”What is it that I want most in my life?”
Often times we choose material things like new homes, fancy cars or even a new pair of shoes. These are things that we usually buy to make us feel worthy, happy or special. What happens when these things wear out? Do you go to the store and get new ones? Now you believe you can truly be happy. So we are happy for a minute, but then these things never make us truly happy. So the cycle continues.
If those material things are what you want, that’s great. Still, you may want to ask yourself, “why do I want these things?”
If it’s not material things that you are actually wanting most, then ask, “What is it that I really want?”. Until you are able to identify what it is you truly want, this cycle of impulsivity and seeking happiness will never really satisfy you. When we listen to the inner voice within, it’s the quiet voice that comes from our gut, then we find out what it is we truly want.
Whether you are aware of it or not, you are constantly attracting whatever you give your attention to. And whether you are aware of it or not you are constantly co-creating, along with the universal God consciousness, the life that you have (While we do have the ability to create the life we want, there is the Great Mystery, eternal life force or flow, to consider. But we’ll save that for another day).
For now we’ll focus on taking charge and being the Wonder Woman (or Superman!) you’ve always wanted to be. Setting goals is a great way be consciously aware of what we want, to clarify what we want and develop a concrete way of asking. It also helps to have these goals in writing so that we can go back to them when we get distracted by old ways of thinking. Setting goals to reflect our true wants are most helpful when we write them down. Be sure to write them:
1. In the positive (what is it that I want, rather than what I don’t want)
2. In the present tense.
Example for a relationship goal: “My relationships with my family, friends and coworkers are filled with love and understanding”.
Example for a health goal: “My body is happy and healthy. My cells are whole. My body heals itself”.
First, write down goals for yourself (I’d start with 3 goals) This is Asking for it.
After you have written the goals down the challenge is to wait and allow the things you want to come to you. This involves not only waiting, but trusting in yourself and the greater Universal flow or God consciousness that brings it to you.
It’s not enough to just ask, it’s important to really believe it and feel it too.
Finally, you must allow yourself to receive. Once we ask, the Universe always delivers. What often happens is that we get confused, often returning to old patterns of thinking, and we end up getting what we don’t want, because that was where our attention was focused.
Although a number of attempts have been made to bring Wonder Woman to the big screen or a comeback to television, any have yet to emerge. I wonder if it has any thing to do with the collective unconscious’ tendency to put our disappointments, shame and weaknesses onto others. We can choose to let go of the blame and own our abilities to create the lives we want. You can be the Wonder Woman (or Superman!) you always dreamed of becoming.
Sometimes we need support in making the steps to get started in owning our abilities and creating the lives we want. Our group and individual programs are designed to help you in taking the steps to create the life you want. Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or (803) 269-8730 to find out more or to schedule an appointment.
By the way, Wonder Woman does still exist in print. I’ll end with the words of my favorite superhero:
” A new journey to be started. A new promise to be fulfilled. A new page to be written. Go forth unto this waiting world with pen in hand, all you young scribes, the open book awaits.
And above all else, be young. For youth is your greatest weapon, your greatest tool. Use it wisely.”
–Wonder Woman # 62, 2007
*Inspiration for this post was taken from the book Amazing Grace: Nine Principles of Living in Natural Magic by David Wolfe and Nick Good. I would recommend this book if you are interested in more on this subject.